How many of you feel the push to make a big change as we enter a new year? Could it be to lose weight… or to better control your anger… or to be more charitable?  As you think about this "resolution" does it come from a place of lack and a desire to undo or clean up past mistakes? Much of the time, New Year's resolutions are mixed up with a sense of failure and the self-critical push to do better or be better because otherwise you aren't good enough...

I have to admit it. I used to HATE weekends. For that matter, I used to hate summer vacation as well. I’m just going to put it all out there… 

I was coaching a client just this week who was hesitant to embark on a wellness program that had worked really well for her 8 years ago. She was afraid that this time the path wouldn’t be as easy and she wouldn’t see the same wonderful results if she did it again. Her mind held onto and enhanced the memories of how easy and perfect it all worked out for her back then. She didn’t want to risk being disappointed in the results this time...

For many years I resisted my fatigue. THIS ISN’T ME, DAMNIT!! Before my “health crisis” I was unstoppable. Superwoman, Bree Van de kamp, Martha Stewart - I could rival them all. My energy was boundless. In retrospect, it was a bit manic though, too.  

Then all of a sudden the energetic “wind” was completely knocked out of me. I found myself barely able to pack the kids’ lunches or muster the energy to pick them up from school, much less create and host elaborate birthday parties or...

It’s been a busy month. School and all the activities surrounding it have crash landed into our easygoing summer disorder. Plans are being made. Schedules are filling up. Weekends no longer blissfully blend into weeks as sports games, birthday parties and obligations begin to fill the ever diminishing free spaces.

Until a few years ago, I welcomed this structure. With busyness came a sense of control. Control equaled perfection. Perfection meant I didn’t have to face stillness. I could numb the pain. I didn’t realize that meant I was also numbing the joy.

When I first overhauled my diet and lifestyle in 2011 so that I could be superwoman for everyone around me (kids, husband, employer, parents, etc) I thought that being a “yes woman” was the epitome of selflessness. Admirable, right? 

Well, let’s take a closer look at the word “selfless” from Merriam Webster...

DON'T FORGET TO DUCK!

Have you gone through a really rough time in your life and felt the relief of having made it to the other side only to find yourself knee deep in something so similar that you can swear you’re living the nightmare all over again? 

It doesn't get much easier than this guys. Really. A dehydrator and food processor are required, so if you have those fancy tools stored away for a wild hit of inspiration, now's the time to drag those babies out of hiding.